Alright, thanks to this comment section, I now need years of free times because it’s all so fascinating I need to learn about all this!

Puts chain mail on

Sigh…

Windows. Because gaming.

Honestly, I like it here. I’ve started to migrate mid-June and I got involved way more than in 5y of reddit. I’m definitely not looking back.

Classic, but very illustrative

Alright I need to plat this game now !

As a regular victim to this feeling, that’s something I needed to read. Thank you :)

I hope your dad is still around you. If he’s not, I hope you remember him fondly…

Talk about a ripple effect :) Even though I suppose you were already considering this at that time, no ? Anyway, that’s very nice, thanks for sharing !

I love this ! I sont exactly know the meaning of these words, but the idea itself is crystal clear !

As for Spinoza (idk who you were replying too), I discovered his writing at 34. It is difficult to understand at first and I had to rely on a vast quantity of vulgarisation books, podcasts, articles to be able to read and understand Ethics.

But imo it wouldn’t have been harder in my 20s.

Good luck in your explorations !

Yeah, I heard those replies too.

I was especially shocked it took my closest friends a long time to understand it didn’t mean I was distancing from them. Even 4 years later, from time to time, I still hear those.

Good night !

Well, to tell you an abbreviated version of the story, I’m working two jobs, half time underpaid teacher and half time underpaid whatever-the-hell-I’m-doing (researcher on a health-related public org). Currently long term contracts.

Long weeks, barely hitting minimum wage, sometimes less than mw.

Ive been expecting one if these jobs to offer me a full time job… Which they recently did. Both. But both did it in the form of 1 year contract with no guarantee for… after.

I planned to refuse them both. Income stability and the ability to make plans, even when broke, are too important to me.

My friend told me (gently) it was a mistake. That I’m sending the message that will stay even if they dont pay me well, that my unwillingness to take risks explains that i’m stuck on this position, that I could rely on unelployment payements for a year if nothing comes after one if those contacts. That it gives a bad signal to potential new employers.

I think my friend may be right but… I dont know. It was kinda traumatic, a few years ago. I was working on 1 year contracts, one after the other. I fell sick and had quite heavy surgery. But it was 2 months before the term of my contract. I was so afraid of losing my job, getting evicted from my flat, going back to my family… I ended up taking Ubers to go to work because I could barely walk, teaching under the effect to heavy painkillers, etc. Basically making the renewal of my contract a priority over my very health.

At that time I became very risk adverse, stability became my priority to never go through that again. But after this discussion, I’m a bit lost in thoughts, constantly wondering what I should do.

I think that episode is still too close and I’ll stay in my current situation to avoid taking this kind of risks, but… I’m still thinking. Maybe it still needs time to make it’s way through my thoughts.

Sorry for the wall of text !

Oh. That’s such a great story. Thanks for sharing it…

… and it’s most disturbing because I had a kind of similar discussion with a friend two days ago. I was in your position. And ive been thinking about it ever since. Not about traveling but about job hopping/leaving my job/avoiding risk v.s. taking a leap.

Ouch. That one has to hurt. But I hope it was for the best.

Interesting. You’re right. I realize that maybe because of the hours I’m hitting bars. I never go to one at night. It’s always right after work, at 6pm-7pm.

Might be the reason.

France (north). I’m now deserting bars too, yes. There’s just some times I can’t avoid them, i.e. meeting people during a train stop, at the bar near the train station. If it’s not too late, I’m ordering coffee now.

Zombo.com !