It’s so hard. I’m sorry you’re going through this.

I can say time will help. And that is very true, but it doesn’t help you in this moment. But it’s something to think about.

Meditation helps. I was in such a bad place after a breakup. I had a constant feeling of panic and depression. I started to meditate. Guided meditations from online. I would seriously meditate for 1.5 or 2 hours every day, sometimes twice. It helped a little and it used up the time I would normally spend feeling miserable.

My attitude was to find ways to occupy my time so I couldn’t use that time letting my mind spin. I started saying “yes” anyone asked me to do something that would use up my time. I made some friends because of that, too.

Good luck, feeling for you.

How much college did not prepare me for it! I learned more in my first six months than I did my whole college education.

Taking a logic course at a university would help.

Less of a twat, but more cranky.

Knowing I am going to see my in-laws.

Unpopular opinion, but I don’t want that. I don’t want to start adding SEO stuff. If we have good content Google can figure out how to index it better themselves.

Critical hit. And start a career in the octagon.

“I won’t always feel this way”

Upsides:

• You can federate with whoever you want and not be at the whim of other system admins.
• You have your data and won’t lose it if your instance suddenly shuts down.

Downsides:

• Your instance won’t be federated very well at first. You may need to use some tricks like Lemmony to get broad federated content to show up in your instance.

When I worked in customer service this info was used in performance reviews. Also if I got an outstanding review my boss would give me a gift card or something.

• Pay to run news stories on fringe Lemmy instances (which everyone has defederated) that offer illegal or borderline illegal content. Equate the fringe instances with Lemmy itself.
• Find vulnerabilities and wait to use them until opportune times.

The thing is, downvotes mean whatever the person downvoting feels like they mean. Personally I don’t downvote anything, only upvote.

It would be interesting to have a bot that looks for bad actors—by that I mean users who abuse the downvote and do not use it the way the community agrees that it means. And have a mod review and take action if necessary.

It would be a good idea. But it means recruiting or paying moderators and admins. The corporations likely have higher priorities.

If you decide to go to college, you have a couple years of general ed classes to get out of the way. Pick a wide variety of things you are interested in. If one clicks maybe it’s the career for you.

I seem to feel like that all the time :-). Going for a short walk helps. So does breaking work down into baby steps and just doing bits at a time.

About 40 TB

GNOME for me. I’m not a huge fan of material design.

It’s bizarre. Both countries have moved away from communism. Russia is ruled by oligarchs. Xi-Jinping’s stated goals are to move China to a modern socialist nation while staying in keeping with China’s culture. His actions are the opposite—China has become more and more capitalist while maintaining authoritarian leadership.

I use AirPods

Can you tell me how to find that option? I only have blocked communities, block NSFW, and and blocked users.