

Horn switches switch to ground. Power for your original horn relay is supplied from a fused battery source, passes through the horn relay, and when you press the horn button the button completes the circuit to earth, triggering the relay.
So, you need to wire your relay coil like this -
12 volts from a fused battery source to:
Your relay coil, to:
The horn switch, which then switches to:
Ground.
Just like how your current horn relay works.
This also works for older cars that do not have the really. They supply power to the horn, and then a single wire runs from the horn back to the horn button, which then completes the circuit to ground when pressed.
There is an empirical way of doing it - best one I’ve seen online so far is this:
AN186 - Brushless DC (BLDC) Motor Connections