Sure there is always exception, still an old grandma can act bad but needs also to get accepted. If the question is take as simple prospective then be grumpy or terrible isn’t in fact associate at the real inside, that real who comes out in actually crisis like the death. Morally speaking you are right, but in life I think morals are most storytelling that true human virtues.
No I never reconnect with lost friends and I hope to not have do it in next future, I left everytime because good reason.