Agreed, also people need to know how literal having “poor mental health” is. The margin you have for extra load or bad things happening is so much smaller. Similar to how an unexpected bill will be shoulder shrug for someone with good economy and a disaster for someone with bad economy.

Yepp, or at least a subgroup of it and/or autism.

And if you’re really “lucky” it turns into PDA, “pathological demand avoidance” or as I prefer to call it “pervasive drive for autonomy”. Worst case you enter fight or flight mode due to any demands on you. My feeling is that it’s a understandable reaction to the feelings of anxiety demands have pushed on you over the years.

This, as a general advice, is just as bad as praying unless you actually know the person.

Oh yes, such as “just form good habits”…
Sorry, I’m incapable of making habits.

Or “think how good it will feel when you’re done”.
Sorry, best I can do is feel enough anxiety over not having done the thing that it will outweigh the anxiety I feel regarding doing the thing".

It’s such a joy sometimes…

I’m a Christian but I support the school of thought that says “shit happens”.

Another problem with the thinking “everything happens for a reason” is that it can lead to belief in “the just world”. When one thinks that life is fair you start to believe that bad things only happens to bad people, ie they deserve it.

Oh yes, I got that you knew that. I was speaking about the others, sorry that I didn’t make that clear enough.

That’s good to hear. I hope he’s doing well.

But that’s what’s often missed regarding statistics. It’s true for a large group of people but can’t say anything about the individual.