I have 2 siblings and our relationship for the most part was pretty good.

Until it got out that I was bi.

One of siblings is fine with it (they’re also bi).

The other took a similar stance to the rest of my relatives and has all but cut ties with me.

I say similar as most of my relatives have fully cut ties with me.

So it could be better.

Breakups can be pretty hard to cope with depending on how it ended.

The best advice I can think of is trying to think of it as an era of your life is now over. Those events from that era still have significance to you and will likely for a long time. And the best thing to do is not to dwell on them but look to the future.

What will this new era bring? Will you pick up those hobbies you’ve been thinking about but didn’t have the spare time for? Will you find new adventures in hobbies you already have? Will you focus on self improvement?

The best thing you can do is to let go.

They’re gone, they chose to move on. And now you will have to as well.

Yes they were incredibly significant to you, and for a time you were to them too. But just like eras in history those eras end and a new era begins.

Don’t dwell on the past and what could have been, you will only find pain there.

Look to the future for what could be.

And reach out to your friends/family and talk to them. It will be hard but open up to them about it. And if your family is just as supportive as mine, just your friends.

Here’s a brief(ish) personal story of how my most significant relationship ended.

Trigger warning: death and substance abuse.

A long time ago I was in a long-term committed relationship with 2 people (a man and a woman) I loved more than anything. Life was good for a time and improving. We had long-term goals for the relationship and our futures together.

Then some stuff went wrong that waa outside of our control, we could still achieve our goals but they would have been harder. We didn’t know how to handle it well. But we tried to stay on target.

Then more things went wrong that put us on a 30 day clock to sort out housing situation faster than we had hoped by a long shot.

We had nobody we could lean on for help, our only choice was to try our damnedest to make it happen.

We were running up to our deadline, stress was at an all time high.

We were working as many hours as we could trying to get the cash together faster then we thought possible.

She lost her job.

Then she died.

And a few days later he died due to drinking and driving.

Everything fell apart.

The era was over. And a new era had begun.

I handled it the worst way possible, I fell back into substance abuse.

And it took me 6 years to kick it.

Don’t do what I did, don’t lean into substance abuse (alcohol/drugs) they will only make the hurt worse.

My vision of an ideal world is a hard one to answer but does have a few key aspects to it.

Where getting sick or hurt doesn’t financially ruin someone.

Where people can seek mental health care without destroying their lives.

Where homelessness is a thing of the past.

Where no one goes hungry.

Where seeking to improve yourself via higher education doesn’t cost money.

Where school funding is based on needs rather than location.

Where people are judged by the value of their character rather than the color of their skin, who they love, or the money in their bank account.

My ideal world isn’t some far off fantasy, my ideal world is something that we can achieve in our lifetimes if we try.

I live in the PNW so I usually hike around Mt St Helens, Mt Adams, and Mt Hood.

This last weekend though I went to a little place called Black Hole Falls

I went hiking on Saturday and I took a fuck ton of pictures, I’m really looking forward to editing the best shots from the trip. The hike was so beautiful it’s probably going to be pretty hard to pick, and honestly that’s the best kind of problem to have.

Also I have a bunch of miniatures that are at the point of needing a final pass of paint before being done, that I’m really excited to finish up.

Though dying may be lower risk for them people could still feel long standing effects from it. Though those are also less likely given they were vaccinated.

Statistics can be a bitch.

I like a clunk or deeper click.

But when it comes to my keyboard I like a bump with a solid bottom out, not a click.

Currently though I’ve got some damn fine clunky toggle switches for some electronic projects that are super overkill for the project but they clack so good.

So much this

No smart speakers

It’s a mic sitting there waiting for your commands and everything it does I can do myself easier

I take atomoxetine for my ADHD and my doctor told me to take melatonin to help me sleep due it causing insomnia.

So I guess it’s the combination of both that does it for me.

Hell last night’s dream was like watching a movie.

Quite often in fact.

It’s pretty nice as I do a lot of creative work so if I’m struggling for inspiration I’ll usually take a nap or just go to bed a little early with a notepad nearby.

The crazy part is since I started taking meds for my ADHD it’s basically every night.

Edit: Most of mine are surreal or hyperreal though if that makes sense. By hyperreal I mean that every detail, every sensation, everything is there. Every single tiny sensation, except they are all cranked up to like 11.

For example: There you are standing on the edge of a cliff looking to the vista below. The trees sway with wind and life, flowing like seaweed caught in the current. The winds reach your face as a soft caress, lightly brushing your cheeks and running it’s fingers through your hair. The smells of earth and water fill your lungs with each breath with a slight chill. The sounds of the trees jostling and the wind swishing consume all sound but your breath.

You close your eyes to take it all in.

Your breathing deepening with each breath.

You feel your self slipping backwards away from the cliff but you know the ground will welcome you.

You gently stop on the moss covered ground. It’s like velvet on your skin.

Running your fingers through it you feel every little branch.

You let yourself fall deeper in sleep as the darkness consumes you.

The smells leave your nose, the wind leaves your hair, the velvety moss loses its touch.

You wake in your bed, feeling more rejuvenated then you have in days.

I’ve got a few

I mostly have them to keep different activities separate

Basically one for memes, one for news, and one for creative things.

All sfw though as that’s just they way I kick it.

Install software relevant software to your hobbies

I’d recommend finding out what kind of video card it has though as that’s a big deciding factor in what you can use it for.

Damn, about 3 TB

I have a NAS with about 40TB of available space and I keep putting stuff on it.

Most of that is 3D models and pictures.

For some people it’s not too bad, and during the summer it’s not that bad.

During the winter though it’s hell. The days are short that you basically never see the sun.

During the whole affair though you’ll have to supplement your Vitamin D, especially during the winter.

My main system is running Windows 10

It works great for everything I need and as long as I don’t enable the TPM in my motherboard settings I don’t have to worry about it upgrading itself to Windows 11. Unlike when my system upgraded itself from 8.1 to 10. That was a hard one due to driver issues with my Bluetooth card at the time.

Did you eat enough fiber?

Sometimes when everything gets too overwhelming I’ll sit in the shower

It’s relaxing but I lose track of time pretty easy and the amount of hot water I have is pretty limited

196 on Blahaj is the apartment of awesome

It’s a very welcoming community full of memes

The LGBTQ+ community on Beehaw is pretty great too, also super welcoming

Stay away from Lemmygrad, super toxic Russia and authoritarian regime simps.

If you’re a high schooler you could always apply for a job at a local business

Provided you’re old enough that is

I’d recommend trying to figure out why you’re failing out of school, school is pretty useful.

Or you could look into picking up a hobby to take up some time with something you could enjoy. Drawing, 3d modeling, writing, reading, cycling, tabletop gaming, photography, etc.

Basically you’d just need to go to the instances list and start picking instances to make accounts on.

And for each account search for communities from them and start subbing.

Some of them are easy to get into, others are a bit picky, some are really busy, and some not so much.

I’d recommend staying away from Lemmygrad though unless you want to be around people who simp for Russia and other authoritarian regimes.

Stick with the chill ones and you’ll have a far nicer time on Lemmy, plus from the chill ones it’s easier to block the shit ones.