Thanks. Managed to lose track of which community I was in.

If you reply to the reply then they tend to go away.

If you don’t reply they tend to hang around and there isn’t an obvious way to mark them as read unless you log into Lemmy via the web, in which case you can tick them as read.

Thank you for the recommendation.

St Elmo’s Fire. I only watched it because of the catchy “full eighties” title track and discovered that said title track totally outclassed the movie.

The other thing with rabbits (and prey animals in general) is they don’t always form a good bond with a human; it can take a long time if they are fussy. Even if they do take to liking you, prey animals tend to only show subtle signs of illness until they are critically unwell by which point it might be too late. That’s before we get to whether there’s a vet nearby who has a special interest in “exotic pets” and who knows how to help.

Edit to add: the signs of illness are subtle because they actively hide it - key to survival is to avoid looking like easy prey.

Ditto magnets. How do they work?

Ah yes. The little grey cells.

There used to be poster you could buy / wallpaper you could download that essentially summarised this Wikipedia page:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_fallacies

Otherwise it’s practice (eg critical appraisal training).

Cruelty towards those who are relatively weaker or indeed defenceless - children, the elderly, partners, animals.

Abusing service / customer-facing staff fits in to this as well and is at once particularly revealing and particularly damning. Next time you’re out and about with friends or a love interest watch how they treat (or talk about) e.g. the person at a ticket booth or the person waiting on tables - if they’re nasty to them (or about them), imagine what they might be like behind closed doors (and how they might treat you one day).

“It will be funny in about ten years” - Lemmy

Sorry to read you are feeling this way.

We are all different; we don’t all respond the same way to the same things but I will share what works for me.

I try to channel that energy into something positive if I can - exercise that little bit harder, put more time and passion into my hobbies.

If that isn’t working I try to dissipate it; listening to heavy metal is my go to. The “heavier” it is the more therapeutic it becomes. Story-driven video games (and the odd first-person shooter or open world mess) can help too.

I have a young family and a family pet; I find that making time to play with them and doing activity with them helps, but even so I sometimes need time to myself to clear my head.

Oddly enough being at work helps too. By the time I’ve fixed someone else’s problems I realise that maybe mine can be fixed too.

I’ve never found that having a treat (food, drink, whatever) worked for me; I end up feeling guilty of the excess and empty afterwards - but I appreciate this works for some.

When all of the above fails - I phone a friend.

All of this is about making space to strip away the emotional burdens and perform a fair analysis of the situation. I’m very solution / results driven so I look for ways of moving forwards.

Take care out there.

The joke was silly. The more serious answer for me is TinkerTool.

CounterStrike. Haven’t played in years but there was a while when it consumed my free time.

Exactly my thoughts; what was once envisioned as a personal development or quality/service improvement tool instead becomes a stick with which to beat people.

Ah. A trap.

The person who shared it with me was Norwegian so this would fit; they just translated it for me.

Look after your equipment and your equipment will look after you.

-and-

There’s no such thing as bad weather, only bad clothing.

I use this one regularly, paraphrased as:

“We do the best we know how; and when we know better, we do better”